Learn to enjoy the stillness and quiet that solitude may bring. Hitting the dating scene in your fifth decade can feel so… After all, there are likely to be children in the picture, and behind every potential partner is a sheer lifetime of romantic experience (and a much, much longer trail of exes). In fact, if you’re dating as a forty-something, you’re guaranteed to be wiser, better at dating, better at knowing what you want, and a lot less impulsive and sensitive to rejection.I learned who I truly was, and I learned what I wanted and what I didn’t want in a partner. As you move through this journey, there will be enemies as well as allies. You must let go of your demands and your impatience.I was getting closer and closer to the elixir, to the grail, but I still had miles to go. I always took women out for coffee for a first date, because it was casual, low key, and allowed us to face each other and talk and listen and learn about each other. We met at a tea house near the University of South Florida. Because I loved being nerdy and doing nerdy things. A warrior is slow to trust, but ever watchful for those who have earned it by their actions. Getting angry because you didn’t get what you want, or getting sad because things are moving too slow are the ways of a child. The world keeps turning regardless of your petulance. You must release to the wind your fantasies and daydreams, for they can lead to madness and crisis.
He will lose sleep, he will lose money, and he will lose self-respect trying to keep that plane in the air, but it’s going to end like the Hindenburg disaster. I need you to adjust your thermostat to women who are your own age.
— When I first started dating again, I had a bad case of Instant Gratification.
I hit the ground running, signed up for match.com, created a profile and expected the emails and winks to start rushing in.
Even though you may have become single quickly, perhaps through a divorce, finding and becoming part of a new relationship will not happen so immediately. I was gainfully employed, had all my teeth and (grey) hair. What I realized is that I didn’t get any responses because I was aiming at the wrong target.
Your journey begins with one step, and it will continue with a thousand more in front of you. — I thought that I was quite a prize when it came to the online dating scene. When you are over 40, the days of dating 20 year old women are gone.